You and this person had some great times together, supporting each other through tough times. But now, things have changed. You’re feeling drained and realize you’ve put a lot into this friendship without much in return.
No one wants a toxic friendship. It’s tempting to hope things will improve on their own, but if we don’t talk about how we feel, the friendship will only get worse. It’s important to be honest and address the issues.
Over-possessiveÂ
Who doesn’t like feeling valued or important? Sometimes, it feels good when people show they care about us. But when this care becomes possessive, it can turn toxic. They may demand all your time, get upset when you’re with other friends, and make you feel bad for having your own life. Being best friends doesn’t mean you have to be glued together all the time.
Uncalled Rudeness
In any relationship, there are limits. With my closest friends, we might joke around and tease each other. But that doesn’t mean it’s okay for them to act mean all the time, especially in front of others. Bullying someone and calling it friendship is a big warning sign.
Emotional Vampires
Your friend calls you to vent about their day, but when you need them, they’re nowhere to be found. Friendships are about giving and taking, but if it’s all about them and none about you, it’s like dealing with an emotional vampire. Even if you ask for help, they disappear like a vampire in sunlight. You might always be there for them, but they won’t return the favor. Eventually, all the support you’ve given will be forgotten.
Forever Drama
If hanging out with them feels like a chore, it’s time to be real with yourself. Why is that? Is it because of all the drama they bring? If being friends feels like walking through a minefield of stress, it’s time for a talk or a plan to distance yourself.
Passive-Aggressive Guilting
Everyone has their own likes and dislikes, and that’s okay. But if your friend keeps making you feel guilty for your preferences, it’s time to talk. If their snarky comments continue, ask yourself if this friendship is worth it. Friendships shouldn’t feel like a weight on your shoulders. It’s normal to have ups and downs, but you shouldn’t always feel mentally drained trying to make things right.
